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Spirits Raising Spirits
By Paula Vaughan
Last month I wrote about different ways I had found to
celebrate Christmas since my divorce. Two days after I sent that
article to Dee, I realized I was sad and close to tears often.
Cindy, a close friend, reminded me that it was the year anniversary
of my mother's death. It was hard to believe I wrote the entire
article and did not mention my most recent Christmas experience,
which has been the most profound. Last year my mother died 2 days
before Christmas. We had her funeral on Christmas Eve. That was
definitely the worst Christmas I have ever had. Yet it never came
to mind when I was recounting my Christmas experiences. Interesting
what the mind can hide from the conscious.
One thing I learned from hospice about death anniversaries, was
that the time leading up to them is the worst. The actual day
may be much easier that you can imagine. So it was with me. I
remained sad during Dec. being extremely sad in the beginning
and then getting better and better. By a strange coincidence,
or maybe not so strange, we decided 4 days before Christmas to
go to Florida to join Sarah, my daughter in-law and her family
for Christmas. Her husband had just been transferred to West Palm
Beach and Sarah arrived there the day before us. The same good
friend, Cindy offered us her mother's condo in the town next to
Sarah's family. Cindy's mother had died this past spring. Cindy
and I have both been in communication with her often since her
passing. I strongly feel that angels are on earth among us and
Cindy is one of them. Hope you have some angel friends in your
The day after Christmas we were on the beach. I took a very long
walk and cried. My mother felt very close to me. I could feel
the energy shift as we said our goodbyes to each other. When I
came back, I began to smile and laugh with a lightness I had not
felt in a long time.
Sarah, Bob, Keegan, our grandson, and I spent time baking cookies
together and playing on the beach. The miracle was that Sarah
and I had been always cordial but not close. I taught her to knit
and Bob babysat while we went to movies together. We heart bonded.
It was a true miracle. Keegan and I became close pals, as we were
backseat buddies. We sang, drew pictures, and had special time
Maybe this is a good place to mention that Sarah's mother, my
husband Bob's first wife, died 4 years ago. Not having experienced
the death of a spouse or parent, I am sad to say I was not as
understanding or patient with them when they experienced death
anniversaries. My mother's death has helped me learn compassion
and understanding of the grieving process. I can remember saying
to my husband Bob the first year we were dating something like
get on with your life and not understanding when he was sad. Cindy
kept saying its only been a year or two-grieving takes all the
time it needs. My mother's death is giving me the gift of compassion,
something I really needed. Have you noticed that all the hard
times we go through usually leave us a lasting gift?
My mother loved Christmas very much. She spent time preparing
for it all year. She loved having her family in her home. She
gave everyone a gift at the family dinner she hosted. She loved
it when all went very harmoniously. This year I know she had a hand in giving us our Christmas
Mother visits me in dreams often. Many times she is giving me
insights and helpful information. Do you have dreams with loved
ones present? Spirits tell me this is the easiest way for them
Yesterday while walking I began to wonder what mother's special
Christmas gift will be next year. What a change of perception
for the holidays this makes. It gives me something to look forward
to with happy anticipation instead of dread.
This experience has changed my expectations for other important
days. It brings a real feeling of hope and expectation to imagine
how what mother will help us celebrate her other special days
such as mother's day and her birthday. I have a sense that she
has some more surprises in store for us.
My clients and I both notice spirits intervening in our lives.
I call this divine intervention. Be on the look out for special
help from your beloved dearly departed. Don't be afraid to ask
for help when you need it. Remember your prayers are heard and
answered-just be conscious of the answers appearing around you.
I want to share some wonderful inspiring words of wisdom from
St. Theresa of Avila-a 15th century nun/mystic.
Let nothing disturb you
Let nothing frighten you
All things pass away
God never leaves you
Patience obtains all things
Those who have God lack nothing
God is enough
It is my intention to focus on one line a month. You may want
to put it some place you can see it often. I have this beside
my computer. These simple truths are beautiful and profound. They
provide spiritual guidance that really speaks to me.
Have a divinely happy and spiritually active new year.
Paula Vaughan is a spiritual counselor, business and medical
intuitive, and medium. She lives in Boulder, CO and can be contacted
at 303-447-0250 or email at firstname.lastname@example.org you can visit
her website at www.paulavaughan.com